(500) Days of Summer is a perfect example... of what I'd always thought I'd never do. Summer had, in my opinion, the perfect man: Joseph Gordon Levitt, a quirky-sweet boy with an icredibly classic yet edgy style. and for goodness sakes, he role played in like... walmart or wherever with her! Yet she said, "I'll pass." this has always boggled my mind, yet I've done the SAME EXACT thing on multiple occasions.
Where does this come from? This inability to see something so clearly in front of me, or rather, to see it and ignore it. I just enjoy reeling them in and then tossing them back... what the hell is wrong with me? And I'll never admit it, I'll never admit I was ever emotionally attached and I just want to know where this came from!
I'm not unfeeling; I'm not un-observant. But I try to play it off like I am. You know what, I feel safer if I'm the one saying 'no', and if I say it first they don't have a chance to say it. Fear, it comes from fear. I fool people because I'm not noble enough to tell them the truth.
I am, in essence, a terrible person. Or perhaps... i just haven't met someone who makes me want to risk myself. Is that such a bad thing? Can I help it if the people I know just don't inspire me to say "even if I get hurt, the wholehearted attempt will be worth it" ? It's not their fault either... it's the fault of fate.
Sara...you are not a terrible person. The movie itself proves the statement in your final paragraph. "Or perhaps...I just haven't met someone who makes me want to risk myself..." In the movie she does meet someone after Tom. I think Summer actually wanted to be able to committ to Tom, she just didn't feel it. When you meet the right guy you'll feel it, maybe not right away...but the feeling will come. I think it's so funny that I'm saying all this. Me who had no guy experience six months ago...I don't even know how it happens still. I'm boggled by God's awesomeness through introducing this one guy into my life. It was scary opening my heart up to him I won't lie. Actually I've been reading alot of Christian books regarding love lately (The kind I used to hate...) and they state that a girl should be guarded with her heart and very very hesitant to hand it over to anyone who is not "worth it" so to speak. Don't let anyone have your heart who is not a princely, selfless boy doing his best to portray Jesus (I know that sounds overly conservative and cheesy...but it's what you deserve!) I love you!
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